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Thoughts on Coming Out in Mid-Life, Life, Love, Religion, Politics, Current Events
For some months now, I have been contributing articles to Bilerico-DC, a Virginia/DC/Maryland affiliate of the national blog The Bilerico Project. After today, I will be contributing stories to the main national blog. Needless to say it is both exciting and an honor to be working on a blog with so many amazing writers and which has been described by the Washington Post as one of the "must read" LGBT blogs:
Since his time as attorney general, now Governor Bob McDonnell has taken the lazy way out and mouthed platitudes about not condoning discrimination within respect to state employees. More recently, during his campaign for governor, McDonnell claimed that he had evolved since the days when he wrote his CBN University thesis which among other things advocated that the civil laws should punish gays when ever possible to discourage their "lifestyle." Now as governor, McDonnell has lamely blamed the Virginia General Assembly for its failure to pass employment non-discrimination protections for GLBT Virginians as his rationale for rescinding protections for gay Virginians employed by the Commonwealth. In short, he has pretended that his hands have been tied by the legislature. Frankly, it has McDonnell's way of talking out of both sides of his mouth: claiming he's not a bigot while not doing anything that would upset his puppeteers at The Family Foundation and Pat Robertson's Christian Broadcasting Network. Jon Blair, Executive Director of Equality Virginia has called McDonnell's bluff: procedurally McDonnell can introduce a bill instituting protections for LGBT employees in the ongoing legislative session and demand that Republicans who have heretofore killed such legislation support the bill in order to demonstrate that Virginia does not support legalized discrimination against any of it's citizens; Here are some highlights from Jon's letter:
All too often voters ignore local elections and focus instead on state and national elections. This approach over looks the fact that in many ways one's day to day life is impacted more immediately by decisions made in the local city hall. In May, 2010, the City of Hampton, Virginia, will hold elections for city council and the boyfriend and I are going to be actively supporting Chris Stuart in his campaign for council. Not only is Chris the nephew of some of our best friends, but he has made it clear that he intends to represent ALL residents - including members of the LGBT community. He has already attended a HRBOR networking event and plans on attending the Hispanic chamber event later this month. He is a business owner and knows the rigors of running a business and the need for diversity in attracting progressive businesses and creating jobs - something that is lost on Virginia's Governor and Attorney General. Chris' core message includes:
My blogger friend Pam Spaulding has a great post up at Huffington Post that looks at some of the likely fallout from the latest directive from utterly insane Virginia Attorney General Ken Cuccinelli. As I have recounted a number of times, I frequently receive calls for LGBT individuals who have received job offers in Virginia concerning the status of employment non-discrimination laws in the state. Up until now, one of the few bright spots has been the non-discrimination policies adopted by Virginia's leading colleges and universities which have put in place non-discrimination policies that include sexual orientation. In addition to these colleges and universities, a number of municipalities have adopted similar policies (nearby Virginia Beach is one such municipality). Will the next shoe to drop be Cuccinelli directing these municipalities to likewise cease in decist in protection gay employees? Taken even further, does this mean that public schools cannot have policies to protect students from bullying based on sexual orientation? Cuccinelli has opened a Pandora's Box and I can easily see extremists - e.g., the haters at The Family Foundation - using his action to challenge non-discrimination all around the Commonwealth. Here are highlights from Pam's piece:
The sex abuse scandal in the German Catholic Church continues to grow and has spread to the Regensburger Domspatzen, Germany's leading Roman Catholic boy' choir that was led for 30 years by the brother of Pope Benedict XVI. Georg Ratzinger (pictured at left) says he is totally unaware of sexual improprieties during the 30 years that he headed up the choir. I am currently finishing reading a book that involves priestly sexual abuse and the sexual dissonance prevalent among priests due to the Church's teaching that all sex is basically dirty and sinful which conflicts with normal sexual impulses. Yes, sexual abuse of minors is not limited to Catholic priests, but I do believe that sick obsession with all things sexual makes for very psychologically damaged individuals. It took literally years for me to get over the damage I experienced growing up Catholic. Obviously, it will be interesting to see where the scandal involving the Regensburger Domspatzen leads. Here are some highlights from Google News:
Personally, I am way beyond over the present and former military brass who justify DADT by whining about unit cohesion blah, blah, blah while reputable researchers basically say that these excuses for maintaining DADT are a crock of shit. The latest example of this simpering defense of DADT comes from former Air Force Chief of Staff Merrill McPeak (at left)
It will be interesting to see whether or not the leaders of Virginia's colleges and universities have the spine to tell Ken Cuccinelli to put his directive letter where the sun doesn't shine. For some, deleting the non-discrimination policy as demanded by religious lunatic Cuccinelli will have a potentially dire impact in terms of recruitment, not to mention potential alumni contributions. Indeed, if the University of Virginia knuckles under I will join a fellow UVA Law alumni and cease all contributions to the university. Let Cuccinelli sue the University and bring a fire storm down upon himself. The public colleges and universities need to make it clear that they will protect the U.S. Constitutional rights of gay citizens even if Cuccinelli will not. Cucinnelli clearly forgets that the U.S. Constitution trumps the Virginia General Assembly AND the Virginia Constitution - It also trumps Cuccinelli's religious based bigotry -as does the Virginia Statute for Religious Freedom. Thomas Jefferson must be rolling over in his grave (pictured at right). Here's the comment left on the Daily Progress by a fellow UVA alumni:
In the wake of his letter to the public colleges and universities in Virginia directing them to strip gays and lesbians of employment protection policies, the reaction has been loud and one of universal condemnation - except of course for the Christo-fascists at The Family Foundation, Daddy Dobson's racist, anti-immigrant and anti-gay affiliate based in Richmond which applauded Cuccinelli's action. As I noted yesterday, one can only wonder what else Cuccinelli wants to eliminate in Virginia. Abortion is certainly one item on his hit list as is divorce and birth control in all likelihood. I have been chided by some for using the word "Taliban" in connection with Bob McDonnell and Cuccinelli, but I believe it is apt insofar as it underscores their desire to force all Virginians to live by their extremist personal religious dogmas. The vileness of Cuccinelli's action really struck me last night at dinner at a local club surrounded by an all gay and lesbian clientele - under Cuccunelli's view, every one of us is less than full human and a deserving target of discrimination. One can only believe that Cuccinelli's action will embolden some homophobes who see his letter as a green light to do harm to LGBT citizens. The following are highlights from a statement I received via e-mail from the Virginia Senate Democratic Caucus late yesterday:
The speed with which Virginia is regressing backwards under the Christianist triumvirate of McDonnell, Cuccinelli and Bolling is down right frightening. In a move that will overnight make Virginia's top public universities and colleges - think the University of Virginia and William & Mary among others - uncompetitive in recruiting faculty and staff, Virginia's lunatic theocrat Attorney General has now directed colleges and universities rescind their policies protecting employees from discrimination based on sexual orientation. One can only assume that Cuccinelli's next move will be to try to reimpose sodomy laws and bans on interracial marriage. I hope to Hell the rest of the country is watching how false moderate Republicans govern. Some of us warned what was going to happen under these madmen but idiot voters fell for their lies. I hope the colleges and universities refuse to comply. I also hope that Northrup Grumman is watching closely. Here are highlights from the Washington Post:
In yet another illustration of how rapidly the United Kingdom - the source of the USA's legal tradition - save for in Louisiana where the French Civil Code prevails - is diverging from the still religiously dominated laws of the USA. The new legislation will allow denominations that want to grant church ceremonies the right to do so - something that should always have been the case in my view. It is to me a sad commentary as to how far the USA has fallen from being a light of freedom to the world - particularly in states like Virginia where the Christian Taliban hold sway and true religious freedom is a joke. Here are some highlights from the Times of London:
As I have noted before, our enemies among the self-anointed Christianist ranks at first appearance have a bizarre obsession with gay sex. Gays are defined solely by how and with whom we have sex. Emotional bonds, common hopes and aspirations - indeed love - are all utterly removed from the equation. Why? Two reasons I suspect. First, by keeping gays a stereotyped one dimensional image, it is so much easier to demonize us and engage in demagoguery in front of unsophisticated and ignorant audiences. It's a very deliberate and calculated approach intended to dehumanize us and stamp out potential sympathy based on our common humanity. The second reason? Because closeted homophobes like Ed Schrock and now Roy Ashburn dwell - or so it seems - on quick sex with no emotional connect because of their own self-loathing. They project their own distorted emotional hang ups onto all of us who have come to terms with how God made us fir whatever reason. A column in the Washington Post looks at the phenomenon. While I do not agree with all of it, it sheds light on this sexual obsession of self-righteous and judgmental "church people." Here are some highlights:
Following in the footsteps of former Virginia Congressman Ed Schrock (who I knew personally and identified as a closet case hypocrite to Mike Rogers), a California State Senator has been picked up for drunk driving. And where did he get intoxicated? At a gay bar, of course, which he left with an apparent trick. Karma can truly be a bitch. Antigay California state senator Roy Ashburn is obviously getting the just deserves that his hypocrisy merits. Nonetheless, I cannot understand the mindset of quasi-closet cases like Schrock and Ashburn. Were they subconsciously hoping that they would get caught and be forced out of the closet or what? It is one thing to hide behind an anti-gay voting record while not out seeking gay sex. It is something completely different when votes against gays and then goes out seeking gay sex. I just do not get it. Here are highlights from CBS 13 in Sacramento:
I swear that I try not to write about the Roman Catholic Church on a near daily basis, but it seems that there's always some new juicy scandal or situation that underscores the cluelessness and/or hypocrisy of the Church hierarchy. Today's scandal of the day is one such jewel that makes me wonder if God isn't doing his/her/its best to trash the Catholic Church and send the Vatican a message that it needs to change its ways. As the Church continues to be one of the leading persecutors of LGBT individuals and seeks to involve itself in the deprivation of civil legal rights to gays, the clergy sex abuse scandal keeps expanding and seems to know no geographical limits. Now, sexual related scandal has seeped into the very heart of the Vatican with the news that a member of an exclusive "usher" organization and member of an exclusive Vatican choir has been arrested for involvement in a gay prostitution ring. As seems to be the norm, the most extreme homophobes are always the closet cases and/or those who persecute normal, out gays. The Washington Post has the details on this latest bombshell and here are some highlights:
On March 18, 2010, Hampton Roads BusinessOutReach (HRBOR) ill hold its March Third Thursday networking event at the studios of Ellenburg & Shaffer Glass Art Gallery in Norfolk, Virginia. This is a new gallery - expanded from a gallery and manufacturing center in Greensboro, North Carolina, and their work looks absolutely gorgeous. I never miss a Third Thursday event and have found them a terrific way to market my law firm and and meet new friends as well, but this event should be amazing from the perspective of the glass work. For those who do not have a business, ask about HRBOR's associate memberships for non-business owners. Here are the details on the event on the 18th.
My good friend Jeff Ward who operates Savvy Navigator, a gay travel tour company that specializes in trips to South Africa, Argentina and Costa Ric, is planning upcoming wine tastings events in DC, Philly, New York & Chicago. Jeff only does things first class so I encourage readers in the cities involved to experience a taste of South Africa with Julian Melck, Jeff's South African farmer host from Kersefontein Farm. Jeff assures me that Julian will titillate your taste buds with some of the best vintages from the vineyards we visit on our South African Tours. Here are the details:
Even though I live in gay-hating Virginia, one cannot help but feel the excitement in the air from Washington, D.C., on Virginia's northeast border where marriage equality has won the day. Yesterday, the District began issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples and on Tuesday, the first weddings will begin taking place. Already there is talk among Virginia GLBT residents about getting married in Washington, D.C., even though the marriages will not be legal recognized in the backwater swamp known as Virginia. The result will likely be that (1) more Virginians will end up knowing "married" same sex couples who travel to the District to marry - the boyfriend and I may be among them, (2) the sky will not fall in the District as predicted by the homophobes, (3) D.C. and Maryland - which will recognize legal marriages performed in other states - will enjoy an even greater competitive edge over Virginia in terms of attracting top talent and progressive companies, and (4) Virginia will have aligned itself with backwards states like Mississippi and Alabama. The next question will be if and when gays begin leaving Virginia and moving to the District or Maryland. Here are highlights from the Washington Post on yesterday's events:
For those outside of Virginia, the Richmond Times Dispatch is among the most conservative newspapers in the Commonwealth of Virginia. Hence I was surprised to see an op-ed column in that generally reactionary newspaper that directly takes Governor Bob McDonnell - and the GOP members of the House of Delegates - to task for their failure to afford employment protections to gay and lesbians state employees. The appearances of the Westboro Baptist Church hate merchants both in the Norfolk-Virginia Beach area and in Richmond provide a great backdrop displaying McDonnell's and the Virginia GOP's true mindset. And for McDonnell, the conclusion is pretty clear that he's the same "Taliban Bob" who wrote his infamous thesis at Pat Robertson's law school. His campaign as a moderate was clearly a lie and one can only hope voters in other parts of the country are being educated so as to not fall for the campaigns of GOP bigots and theocrats who pretend on the campaign trail to have "evolved" from past fanaticism. The reality is that in today's GOP, there is no such thing as a moderate. Here are some column highlights:
The degree to which the Vatican and the Roman Catholic Church hierarchy are out of touch with reality and the hubris that seems to be the hallmark of the morally bankrupt Church leadership are truly mind numbing. First, we have all Hell breaking lose in Ireland in reaction to the proposal by the delusional Church leaders that the laity - i.e., the rank and file church parishioners - contribute money to pay off the damage awards owed to the numerous victims of sexual abuse by priests, Even though the laity had nothing to do with enabling and covering up of sexual abuse for decades on end. Not surprisingly, the Irish parishioners are outraged at the proposal. Meanwhile, in Germany a Catholic monastery which was the location of alleged sexual abuse crimes against minors is raided by German police looking for evidence against the Church. Despite all of these crimes against children and youths, the Catholic Charities in the Archdiocese of Washington, D.C., is in apoplexy over the newly effective law allowing same sex marriage and - rather than pay any benefits to same sex spouses - is dropping all partner benefits for married staff regardless of the gender and sexual orientation. Better to give no benefits to any married couples rather than give some benefits - gasps - to gay couples. Here are highlights from the Independent on the Church's stone deafness in Ireland:
Perennial homophobe and psycho Peter LaBarbera - a/k/a Porno Pete due to his love of "undercover research" at gay leather events - is at it again as reported by the wingnut news source OneNewsNow. Porno Pete is incensed that the Department of Housing and Urban Development is on a course to study housing discrimination against LGBT citizens - something that is currently perfectly legal in Virginia. Porno Pete has his panties in a major knot and is whining about "straight flight" in areas where gays move in. From my observation, the situation is generally the exact reverse: gays go into run down semi ghetto areas, turn them around and help gentrify them, and then all the straights want to move in. Locally, the Ghent area of Norfolk is a case in point as is the Dupont Circle area in Washington, D.C. But then, LaBarbera is never one to let facts get in the way of his gay bashing. Here is some of the verbal diarrhea LaBarbera is spouting at OneNewsNow:
The backwardness and homophobia of the knuckle dragging GOP members of the House of Delegates knows no limits. Yesterday a committee once again killed a bill that was passed by the Virginia Senate that would have protected state workers from employment discrimination based upon sexual orientation. Leading the charge was uber-bigot Delegate Bob Marshall pictured at left. The man is truly a Neanderthal who wants all citizens to be forced to live according to his personal religious beliefs. He'd fit right in with the mullahs in Iran. Unless things change markedly in Virginia, I suspect that once our parents are gone, the boyfriend and I will consider leaving the state. First, these highlights from WJZ-TV 13:
As I have stated before, I have been pleasantly surprised by the tolerance that I have found in the City of Hampton, Virginia, since moving in with the boyfriend. Yes, the City has its share of red necks and homophobes to be sure, but the educated and upper classes seem much more tolerant than is the case say in Virginia Beach, a GOP bastion which is home to Pat Robertson's Regent University and the Christian Broadcasting Network. With the Hampton about to celebrate its 400th anniversary - it is the oldest continuous English speaking municipality in the USA - it seems some within the city want to launch the city's fifth century on the cutting edge. As the flyer above (click the image to enlarge) indicates the city will host a Diversity/Pride event on June 19, 2010 at a park in downtown Hampton. Following the Pride event will be a block party/restaurant event in old downtown Hampton which has a number of great restaurants located in historic buildings. 