Showing posts with label living a lie. Show all posts
Showing posts with label living a lie. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Bob McDonnell Corruption Trial Enters Tabloid Territory


Having known Bob McDonnell for over 20 years I still find it amazing how power, apparently unbridled greed, and blind ambition can corrupt.   Yet, as the corruption trial of McDonald and his wife - a former Washington Redskins cheerleader of all things - continues to get underway, the statements coming out from the trial look like something one would expect in the National Enquirer rather than what one would expect in the governor's mansion in Richmond.  Another ironic coincidence is that as McDonnell increasingly sold his soul to the Christofascists and extremists in the GOP base, one could see less and less of the once fairly nice guy I knew in the early 1990's.  The New Civil Rights Movement looks at the tabloid bombshells coming out of the trial.  Here are excerpts:
Less than three weeks after taking office in 2010, Virginia Gov. Bob McDonnell was positioned as a GOP savior. Clean-cut and handsome, he looked presidential. Some thought he might make it to the White House -- as president or VP. Today, after a tumultuous four-year gubernatorial term, Bob McDonnell is on trial for corruption.

As The New Civil Rights Movement reported then, Gov. McDonnell advocated for a state ban on same-sex marriage, and ushered in an administration openly hostile to its own LGBT citizens. In 2012, for example, Gov. McDonnell said gay parents threaten the ability of their children to achieve the American dream, and only straight parents can give children the right start in life. The year prior, McDonnell announced he wanted to block adoptions by same-sex couples. And just days after the newly-elected Governor Bob McDonnell took office, he signed a new state policy that specifically removed LGBTQ protections from state workers.

McDonnell, who graduated from Pat Robertson's Regent University, wrote a 1989 thesis which proffered that the government should make policy favorable to married couples over "cohabitators, homosexuals or fornicators."

But McDonnell was perhaps best known, thanks to MSNBC's Rachel Maddow, as "Governor Ultrasound," for supporting a bill forcing women who were seeking an abortion to undergo a wholly medically-intrusive and wholly-medically unnecessary vaginal ultrasound. It was, of course, a GOP attempt to dissuade women from having abortions.

Today, Politico reports that "Bob McDonnell’s marriage was broken and his wife developed a crush on a businessman who lavished her with expensive gifts and attention, an attorney for the first lady said Tuesday during the couple’s corruption trial:
Maureen McDonnell’s lawyer William A. Burck said during opening statements that the former first lady was “duped” by Williams into thinking he cared for her. Williams filled a “void” in her life, and she and her husband were pretending to be a happy couple although their marriage had “broken down” long ago, Burck said.

“There were barely on speaking terms,” Burck said.Burck said Williams and Maureen frequently exchanged text messages and phone calls, and that Williams often visited the Executive Mansion. Burck said the pair had a relationship that “some people would consider inappropriate” and that one potential witness may describe Williams as Maureen McDonnell’s “favorite playmate.” He did not indicate that their relationship was physical.
It goes without saying that Bob McDonnell's continued self-prostitution to The Family Foundation and apparently feigned support for that foul organization's "pro-family" agenda was nothing short of abject hypocrisy.   Years ago, Bob was a nice guy and always exceeding gracious to my children - and very cute - but he threw all of his goodness away in the pursuit of power.  If reports of his marriage being broken are true, he lived a lie just as deceptive as gays who remain in the closet.  I hope he doesn't take a fall for Maureen - she doesn't deserve it.

Monday, December 09, 2013

Australian Actor Harry Cook Comes Out



It seems that more and more celebrities and sports figures are coming out.  Olympic diver Tom Daley, obviously is one who comes to mind.  But there have been many more this year.  Towleroad has a compilation here of some of the more notable people who have taken the plunge and begun living honestly during 2013.  A new addition to this group who came out today is Australian actor Harry Cook who posted a poignant video on YouTube (see the clip above) as his way of making his announcement.  In the clip, Cook talks about the fear he experienced in deciding to be honest.  He also talks about the huge relief he felt once he took the plunge.

I continue to be contacted frequently by those who are either still in the closet as well as those who have recently come out.  Yes, coming out is a terrifying experience, especially if one has married and had children with a straight spouse.  But the stress of playing a role and trying to be what you are not  - often wracked with self-hate in the process - is so debilitating and, at least in my own case, made me someone who was not  always the best person to be around and certainly not the husband and father I wanted to be. I truly would never want to go back in the closet and relive the torment that it involved.  I wish the best of luck and happiness to Cook and the others who have come out this year.

For those unfamiliar with who Harry Cook is, Towleroad has these details:
Australian actor Harry Cook came out of the closet in a video posted to his YouTube account yesterday.

Said Cook: "Life's too short to be anything but yourself. So, on that note...I'm gay."

Cook said he was worried about coming out because he's an actor:

"I thought about it for a really long time and really stewed over it. I was like 'Oh my God, this could ruin my career.' All this crap… and then it kind-of hit me that that’s so ridiculous...The title of my job is 'actor'. It's fake. It's pretend. I'm not me. I know how to play straight - I did it all through high school."

Cook is best known for co-starring with Geena Davis in the 2009 coming of age dramedy Accidents Happen. He has also performed at The Corpus Playroom in Cambridge UK at the International Playwright Competition as the lead in the play "Russets" which went on to win the competition.