I created a bit of a fire storm in terms of e-mails based on my last posting. First, I was taken to task for only posting photos of younger men as opposed to more mature men. Then I was told by one closeted reader that "one of the reasons I don't come out is due to the attitude of many younger gays." Lastly, I was accused of being perhaps shallow myself since I only post photos of younger guys.
Truth be told, I have on occasion posted photos of more mature men – Richard Gere comes to mind as one. The reality is that it is MUCH harder to find artistic and somewhat alluring photos of more mature guys. Do a Google search of “male models” and see how many sites you find with older models. I will tell you – not all that many. Perhaps it is a symptom of our society’s obsession with youth. I DO spend time trying to find quality photos for posts and avoid the X-rated sleaze found on many blogs (the majority of which sadly get much higher traffic than this one). Anyone who has photos they would like to contribute for consideration, please send them my way.
Another e-mail asked me “However, when talking about the necessary "chemistry", does intellect really take a priority? Face it, the physical is what titillates. . . . How many older men have you enjoyed conversations with, but would not begin to spark a relationship because of age?” In response, for me what sparks “chemistry” is hard to define. Honestly, intellect DOES factor in for me as a critical element and, if not present, eliminates a guy from serious consideration. Yes, looks may get me to take the first glance, but there must be more to a guy. Moreover, I do not see myself as being attracted to only one “type.” It’s the total package that matters and over time I have found a variety of guys most attractive. In my straight life, I could never understand the men with the bimbo “trophy wife” with an IQ of perhaps low average at best. Once they have had sex, how on earth do they have a conversation (not to mention that they guy might end up with equally dim witted children)? To me, it is no different with a gay couple.
I guess my real point in the prior post is that I wish we gays would treat each other better. If we do not look out for one another, our enemies and most of society clearly will not.
Another e-mail asked me “However, when talking about the necessary "chemistry", does intellect really take a priority? Face it, the physical is what titillates. . . . How many older men have you enjoyed conversations with, but would not begin to spark a relationship because of age?” In response, for me what sparks “chemistry” is hard to define. Honestly, intellect DOES factor in for me as a critical element and, if not present, eliminates a guy from serious consideration. Yes, looks may get me to take the first glance, but there must be more to a guy. Moreover, I do not see myself as being attracted to only one “type.” It’s the total package that matters and over time I have found a variety of guys most attractive. In my straight life, I could never understand the men with the bimbo “trophy wife” with an IQ of perhaps low average at best. Once they have had sex, how on earth do they have a conversation (not to mention that they guy might end up with equally dim witted children)? To me, it is no different with a gay couple.
I guess my real point in the prior post is that I wish we gays would treat each other better. If we do not look out for one another, our enemies and most of society clearly will not.
