Showing posts with label dating service. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating service. Show all posts

Monday, August 01, 2011

College Students Using 'Sugar Daddies' To Pay Off College Debt

Given that the GOP cares nothing about the terrible economy, the unemployed and under employed and is happy to gut college loan assistance programs while giving tax breaks to the very wealthy, a development scrutinized in a Huffington Post piece might well be the new unofficial GOP program to pay one's way through college when all else fails: become a sex worker and exchange sex for assistance from "Sugar Daddies" or "Sugar Mommies" as a means of paying down often staggering college loans (law students may be even more in need of this approach given the bleak market in the legal profession). The piece looks at a website called SeekingArrangement.com where students can look for those willing to pay for their college. While depicting itself as a "dating site," as the Huffington Post piece makes clear, sex is what's really for sale. And SeekingArrangement.com is only one of such sites. And the students in search of financial assistance are both gay and straight. Here are some highlights:
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Saddled with piles of student debt and a job-scarce, lackluster economy, current college students and recent graduates are selling themselves to pursue a diploma or pay down their loans. An increasing number, according to the the owners of websites that broker such hook-ups, have taken to the web in search of online suitors or wealthy benefactors who, in exchange for sex, companionship, or both, might help with the bills.
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The past few years have taken an especially brutal toll on the plans and expectations of 20-somethings. As unemployment rates tick steadily higher, starting salaries have plummeted. Meanwhile, according to Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, a professor of psychology at Clark University, about 85 percent of the class of 2011 will likely move back in with their parents during some period of their post-college years, compared with 40 percent a decade ago.
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Enter the sugar daddy, sugar baby phenomenon. This particular dynamic preceded the economic meltdown, of course. Rich guys well past their prime have been plunking down money for thousands of years in search of a tryst or something more with women half their age -- and women, willingly or not, have made themselves available. With the whole process going digital, women passing through a system of higher education that fosters indebtedness are using the anonymity of the web to sell their wares and pay down their college loans.
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"Over the past few years, the number of college students using our site has exploded," says Brandon Wade, the 41-year-old founder of Seeking Arrangement. Of the site's approximately 800,000 members, Wade estimates that 35 percent are students. "College students are one of the biggest segments of our sugar babies and the numbers are growing all the time."
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Wade sees his company as providing a unique service, a chance for "men and women living through tough economic times to afford college." He bristles at the notion that he's merely running a thinly veiled, digital bordello, choosing instead to describe his site as one that facilitates "mutually beneficial relationships."
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At The Huffington Post's request, Seeking Arrangement listed the top 20 universities attended by sugar babies on the site. They compiled the list according to the number of sugar babies who registered using their .edu email addresses or listed schools' names on their profiles. New York University tops the list with 498 sugar babies, while UCLA comes in at No. 8 with 253, and Harvard University ranks at No. 9 with 231. The University of California at Berkeley ranks at No. 13 with 193, the University of Southern California ranks at No. 15 with 183, and Tulane University ranks at No. 20 with 163 college sugar babies.
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When Barb Brents, a professor of sociology at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, conducts research in various legal brothels in the state, she finds women hailing from a variety of different backgrounds. . . . . Brents equated modern-day college students seeking online sugar daddies to a phenomenon among young, working women nearly a century ago. During the 1910s and 1920s, some young women who worked at minimum-wage jobs during the day would supplement their meager paychecks by meeting up with male suitors at night. They'd swap companionship and sex in exchange for either a clothing allowance or rent money. Such women, explains Brents, never referred to themselves as prostitutes.
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There's more to the article. Frankly, it's a very sad state of affairs but I guess somewhat understandable given the current economy and the unwillingness of the GOP to assign any value to the lives/prospects of ordinary citizens. The ultimate irony, of course, is that the Christianists and evangelicals of the Tea Party are the ones helping to create the circumstances where a site like Seeking Arrangement.com can flourish. WWJD??

Monday, October 18, 2010

Which States are More Gay Curious?


OK Cupid runs a massive dating site for both gay and straight users. Based on the activities of their users, a map of the lower continental USA and Canada was developed which is described as follows (red is more gay curious while blue represents less gay curious):
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Using the incredible power of computers, we were able to break down this question geographically. Here are straight people who either have had or would like to have a same-sex experience in the continental U.S. and lower Canada. You can see some sharp geographic divides. . . . Even in the yellow and blue areas, you can see pockets of gay curiosity in interesting places: Austin, Madison, Asheville.
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Oh and for those insecure straight guys who like to think that every gay guy wants them, some bad news. You're deluding yourself:
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Gay people are not sexually interested in straights. The subtext to a lot of homophobic thinking is the idea that gays will try to get straight people into bed at the first opportunity, or that gays are looking to "convert" straights. Freud called this concept schwanzangst; the U.S. Army calls it Don't Ask Don't Tell. We combed through over 4 million match searches, and found virtually no evidence of it.
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And lastly, the Christianists like to claim that gays are promiscuous. Once again not so - just another myth our enemies like to disseminate:
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Another common myth about gay people is that they sleep around, but the statistical reality is that gay people as a group aren't any more slutty than straights. Median Reported Sex Partners: straight men: 6; gay men: 6; straight women: 6; gay women: 6.

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

E-Harmony Settles N.J. Lawsuit and Will Offer Gay Services

E-Harmony, founded by Christianist Neil Clark Warren, will begin providing dating services fro same sex couples in 2009 as part of a settlement with the State of New Jersey which had charged e-Harmony with violating New Jersey's non-discrimination laws. The relationship services will be offered through a Compatible Partners site which is not yet live. Personally, I'm not sure why one would want to utilize a service founded and run by anti-gay individuals (especially when there are other gay friendly services), but I am nonetheless glad that e-Harmony will be required to comply with the applicable non-discrimination laws. Here are highlights from PR Newswire:
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eHarmony, Inc. and the New Jersey Attorney General's Division on Civil Rights (DCR) have settled allegations that the company violated New Jersey's Law Against Discrimination (LAD) by failing to offer a same-sex matching service. As a result of the settlement agreement, eHarmony, Inc. will start a new service for same-sex matching called Compatible Partners by March 31, 2009. The settlement makes clear that eHarmony, Inc. has not been found in violation of the law.
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The case originated in 2005 when a New Jersey resident filed a formal complaint with the State alleging that eHarmony violated his rights under the LAD by not offering a same-sex matching service. For more than three years, eHarmony vigorously contested the allegations of the complaint. On July 23, 2007, however, the Director of the DCR issued a Finding of Probable Cause that eHarmony had violated the LAD. eHarmony filed a Motion for Reconsideration of the finding, which was pending at the time of the settlement.
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The Compatible Partners site and eHarmony.com will both benefit from the company's commitment to long-term relationships. The two sites will maintain their own matching pools, registration information, and subscriptions. The separate matching pools are based on whether the user chooses to seek an opposite- or same-sex relationship. As a result, users of the Compatible Partners site and eHarmony.com cannot be matched with each other.
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Under the settlement agreement, the company reserves the right to inform those using the new same-sex matching service that the Compatibility Matching System(TM) developed by eHarmony is solely based on research involving married heterosexual couples.