tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34239589.post8940771819370162860..comments2024-03-27T11:00:44.652-05:00Comments on Michael-In-Norfolk - Coming Out in Mid-Life: Saturday Morning MusingsMichael-in-Norfolkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06330888799107186550noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34239589.post-50097810637740821062008-02-19T08:58:00.000-05:002008-02-19T08:58:00.000-05:00It is difficult to understand, agreed. But, the an...It is difficult to understand, agreed. But, the answer is in your post: dysfunction. Some people do not realize it when it applies to them. They do, however, have unmet needs and will cling to the best they have known -- even at times if it means they and their own existence is jeopardized. Honestly, I believe it is a sickness of sorts, an addiction, if you will let me go so far to say. Letting go of a wonderful, caring person -- especially as a result of your own dysfunctional behavior is extremely difficult. Fact is, there is a love and a bond, albeit one that accompanies dysfuntional behavior that will take much time and perhaps therapy to overcome. He has to come to his own realization, acceptance and then decision to move on for himself. As much as you might want to help (because you had a special relationship and will always have a love for him), you simply cannot. It will only prolong the process and create more drama in the meantime. Lots of time. And, a new and fresh and healthy relationship for the both of you will put things right. As for understanding it? Is there any way to understand dysfunction?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com