tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34239589.post6721052656785196265..comments2024-03-27T11:00:44.652-05:00Comments on Michael-In-Norfolk - Coming Out in Mid-Life: Alone in a Mess - The Quandary of a Gay Spouse Coming OutMichael-in-Norfolkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06330888799107186550noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34239589.post-28609976479884480522009-12-07T04:30:29.503-05:002009-12-07T04:30:29.503-05:00Trying to get another person to understand you (ev...Trying to get another person to understand you (even when you're married to that other person, and especially during a crisis) may be an exercise in frustration. Better to concentrate on self-understanding and gentleness, if possible. You're gonna need to accept yourself even if/when others don't understand. <br /><br />Not saying it's easy!carolenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34239589.post-46919496430623180002009-12-06T16:30:03.282-05:002009-12-06T16:30:03.282-05:00Michael,
You are at your best in offering individ...Michael,<br /><br />You are at your best in offering individuals your experience, and also the pitfalls.<br /><br />I think each individual needs to take a "global" assessment, evaluate his needs in light of CURRENT facts, and choose appropriately.<br /><br />One of my concerns -- esp. with married men coming out later in life -- is whether this "evolution" is something one finally accepts, or rather is something one betrayed others into believing.<br /><br />All of us evolve. That's why I chastised you on "starting a new life." We have only one life, and the objective is to live it well, authentically, and the best we can. For whatever reason(s), some men could not accept their androphilia -- but as they do, it is usually a gradual awareness one grows into, not a religious type of conversion.<br /><br />Best wishes, always.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com