tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34239589.post5060620462503585678..comments2024-03-27T11:00:44.652-05:00Comments on Michael-In-Norfolk - Coming Out in Mid-Life: An Out of Touch Criticism of "Call Me By Your Name"Michael-in-Norfolkhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06330888799107186550noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34239589.post-38857946141358556062018-01-06T12:35:53.294-05:002018-01-06T12:35:53.294-05:00As an older man, previously married to a woman for...As an older man, previously married to a woman for 15 years, two kids, I can truly identify with what you say. Two other points. Many of us stayed out of a sense of duty and responsibility for our families. We were actually committed to the relationships, despite our natural inclinations.<br /><br />Secondly, for those of us in the marriages, there was not only an undeniable sexual attraction and sense of loss, but also a feeling of absolute isolation. I don't know how to explain to someone who hasn't been there how absolutely alone we felt in our closets. It was suffocating.<br /><br />I am now of an age where the sex is not the attraction that draws me to my husband. But the companionship is something what only he can provide. The gay rights movement--which I too, was a member of--was undeniably part of our lives. The political and social community were part of our lives. But the quiet stories of finding a perfect love, at least for me, were also part of our lives. I have not seen this film yet, but I do look forward to it. candideinncnoreply@blogger.com