Sunday, February 01, 2009

Reflections on Same Sex Love

The enemies of gay marriage depict and define same sex relationships solely in turns of physical sex acts. They utterly - and I believe intentionally - ignore and disregard the emotional and psychological elements of a committed gay relationships which ultimately involve the same sort of soul to soul bonding that occurs in a committed heterosexual relationship. Our enemies' goal is to depict us as perverts and in fact argue somehow that we less than human so that they can arouse others to hate us. Yes, their words about us are lies - very pernicious lies - aimed at hurting and denigrating.
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It is important that we always remind ourselves that these nasty words are lies. Better yet, we need to show the world that they are lies. Yesterday the boyfriend and I attended two anniversary gatherings for gay couples that clearly demonstrated the untruths disseminated by our enemies. One couple was celebrating 25 years together and the other was celebrating 28 years together, obviously showing the lie of claims by homophobes that gay relationships are unstable and cannot last.
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Both gatherings were moving, but particularly the first where the couple has faced serious challenges and health issues, yet have remained committed and loving towards each other - a number of us found ourselves teary eyed in fact. Interestingly, at this same affair they had an Episcopal priest who had known the couple for many years and said a few words. Among her remarks, she recited a folktale that involves one's soul being split at birth and the other one half being placed in the person that will make one whole. It was an apt description of this couple and to me illustrates the strength of true love and commitment that occurs when "your other half" is found. Whether that other half happens to be in another of the same sex truly should not matter. True love is true love - no matter what our detractors say about us.

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